Gen. 4:7 If you do well, will you not be accepted? And if you do not do well, sin crouches at your door; its desire is for you …
Welcome To The Light-Washed Path,
Since people tragically mess up their lives in the effort to satisfy their craving for acceptance, modern counselors have concluded that appeasing them, early on in childhood, with mega-doses of unearned affirmation, will saturate their insecurities and develop a well-adjusted adult. This tragically destructive ideology is indicative of Paul’s statement in Romans 1:22
Rom. 1:22 Claiming to be wise, they became fools [professing to be smart, they made simpletons of themselves].
The reason that appeasement is a fool’s solution to man’s need for acceptance is that it bypasses the real need by simply eliminating acceptability from the equation. Life will not simply tolerate freeloaders who want credibility for being acceptable without having to prove anything. True acceptance requires maintenance not just certification. In simple terms, if you stop being acceptable you’re going to run the risk of rejection. Now that may be too harsh a reality for our sensitive fragile culture to face, but you’ll never change the truth of it.
In the post-modern western world we are in a heated battle where a culture-of-self, demanding carte blanche acceptance is clashing with the claims of God over acceptability.
This is exactly why anti-Christian forces are pressing for a stronger secular influence over our society. If they can quarantine God in religious institutions, and by extension, isolate the claims of acceptability then people will be free to have a sense of full acceptance without any standard accountability. But that is never the way it works out, nor can it. Because people want to be accepted according to the standards they admire. In other words, you’ll never get acceptance as a great athlete just because you show up in an expensive Nike outfit. And if you demand to be accepted as one without running the race, and winning a few, you’ll end up being labeled the very thing you fear most: a poser.
So you have to do what you love and believe in, as unto the Lord, because you love and believe in it, and not for the acceptance of men. When you live and run your race truly for the approval of God you’ll never be defeated for lack of acceptance. Because there is just no love like that of our Heavenly Father. He supports you as His child without robbing you of your need for accomplishment by giving you false credit. His total love undergirds you while His Spirit challenges your efforts and compels you beyond your short falls.
Col. 3:23 And whatsoever ye do, do it heartily, as to the Lord, and not unto men;
Col. 3:24 Knowing that of the Lord ye shall receive the reward of the inheritance: for ye serve the Lord Christ.
Paul the Apostle makes one of the strongest statements in the Bible on the subject of acceptance, when he says …
2 Cor. 10:12 Not that we [have the audacity to] venture to class or [even to] compare ourselves with some who exalt and furnish testimonials for themselves! However, when they measure themselves with themselves and compare themselves with one another, they are without understanding and behave unwisely.
Paul knew the enslaving traps of living with an eye towards the acceptance of man and under the fear of his rejection. In this statement he cites the ministry for becoming polluted with comparisons, and all because men want validation and endorsement from each other. And they believe in their hearts that they can’t succeed without it. What a tragedy of faith. What a betrayal of love. If you’re affected by the need for acceptance, I urge you right now to find a trysting place with God, and redirect your need to Him. Don’t stop until you’re free. Don’t leave a shred of your inner need left dangling in the world. Lay it upon the altar where Love knows you best and helps you the most.
Mic. 6:8 He hath shewed thee, O man, what is good; and what doth the LORD require of thee, but to do justly, and to love mercy, and to walk humbly with thy God?
Stay On The Path!