The Light Washed Path

The Marriage Bond-1 “Oneness”

Eph. 5:31 For this cause shall a man leave his father and mother, and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.

Welcome To The Light-Washed Path,

Marriage is that unique sacred Bond of Oneness that partners a man and woman together in life’’s journey. More than a romantic relationship and more than sharing living accommodations…

…Marriage is the framework for forging a shared consciousness out of the two personalities of a man and woman.

And it is the condition of oneness that results from successfully living within that shared consciousness. The very thing that constitutes marriage as a sacred state of existence is this Bond of Oneness. You can apply all of the elements of relationship, including shared living arrangements, but if the two don’’t bond no real marriage will evolve. Shared interests and romantic passion alone do not make a marriage bond. The oneness is achieved on a deeper level.

Matt. 19:6 Wherefore they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined together, let not man put asunder.

Jesus endorsed the concept of oneness and conceded that it was indeed possible to damage and separate the bond. He referred to it as being  or to separate. There are certain things we do to “put asunder” the bond of oneness. Sometimes couples are no sooner off to their honeymoon before they begin practicing behaviors that “put asunder” or bring separation between them. The greatest threat to the bond of oneness is ignorance and lack of preparation. It is the inability to understand what this oneness is and properly prepare to enter it that has led to the demise of so many marriages today. In fact, the popular modern concept of what makes a marriage bond is itself a self-destructive element. In our modern culture people usually decide to marry when what they feel towards another becomes intense enough that they want to make their relationship exclusive. But as important as strong feelings and compatible interests are for making a bond of oneness, they’’re not enough to keep that bond in tact. Here is what is missing from many marriages:

John 12:24 Verily, verily, I say unto you, Except a corn of wheat fall into the ground and die, it abideth alone: but if it die, it bringeth forth much fruit.

Many love and marry to gratify the strong feelings that their love-interest evokes in them. And in a way, we marry to bring a sense of fulfillment to ourselves. It’’s understandable that husbands and wives often fall into the trap of hanging their expectations of happiness around the neck of their spouse. In a subtle way, marriage begins to turn around and become an indicator of unhappiness and unfulfillment. When two people who view their marriage to each other as an answer to their needs begin to drain one another, love quickly turns to frustration. The problem lies in the fact that people enter the marriage covenant without any intention of letting go of their former individual life. They don’’t see themselves as laying that life into the ground as a seed, and forfeiting their independence to invest in a new shared consciousness. Some marriages survive because one very strong personality is able to subdue the more accommodating member and make them an accessory to their own life. But the true bond of oneness occurs when both contribute their individuality in a continuing act of love, in order to reap a higher joy of companionship.

John 12:24 …it abideth alone

Making the transition from solitary living to companionship is a huge jump into covenant living that must be made equally by both. Remember the 3-legged race? It’’s work to achieve rhythm. Both minds and bodies must share a common consciousness. The moment one decides he or she would rather run alone they both fall over. I must find my fulfillment in “Us”. And in order for that to happen I must live as a contributor and die as a user. I, as a solitary man, am a seed. If I want to enjoy the fruits of life I must give myself up to become blended into a new corporate personhood. Companionship isn’t achieved by trapping another life but by surrendering to another life.

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