Welcome To The Light-Washed Path,
Marriage is that unique sacred Bond of Oneness that partners a man and woman together in life’s journey. More than a romantic relationship and more than sharing living accommodations marriage is the framework for forging a shared consciousness out of the two personalities of a man and woman.
Many people enter their marriage covenant as a Prince or Princess rather than a Servant. The Prince or Princess is looking for fulfillment and support from the spouse they’ve chosen. Unwittingly they destabilize the marriage with their off-balance, me-first perspective. This doesn’t mean they don’t love their mate. It just means they don’t know HOW to love them. The Prince or Princess enjoys the company of their spouse but doesn’t perceive happiness as a couple but rather, as a fulfilled individual. It is very hard for them to wrap their attention around things that don’t pertain to their immediate interest. It’s hard for them to get motivated by the interests of their spouse or children if those interests are not naturally important to them.
Of course this leads to a great deal of strife in a relationship where their partner feels invisible and often times ends up neglected. The Prince or Princess can’t understand why their love is not enough to satisfy their spouse, seeing that it’s sincere. But the problem isn’t lack of love as much as it is the presence of selfishness. On the other hand, the Servant sees their role as a contributor. They are there to serve, not to be served. The Servant has the desire to be treated like royalty, too. But they aren’t in the relationship to make that happen. They are there to give the royal treatment to the one they love and have pledged themselves too. They take great joy in serving. A marriage between two servants is like Heaven on Earth.
Matt. 20:28 Just as the Son of Man came not to be waited on but to serve, and to give His life as a ransom for many [the price paid to set them free].
Jesus came to take a Bride. But we often forget that He also came to make a Bride. Jesus wagered His life on the idea that He could raise us to compatibility with Himself by the sacrifice of His love. And He was absolutely right. Love never fails. And for love to be successful the Prince had to become a Servant in order to produce and win His Bride.
People often enter marriages as a Prince or Princess and spend their years fighting to be seen, heard, considered, and catered to. But in a healthy marriage two must contribute their individualities to the covenant in order to produce Us. The blended identity that results from the unselfish surrender of two individuals will be impervious to the forces that would defeat the individual. Servants always win in the end.
John 12:26 If any man serve me, let him follow me; and where I am, there shall also my servant be: if any man serve me, him will my Father honor.
It is not too far of a stretch to say that if the Prince or Princess will lay self aside and serve each other, that the resulting marriage will arise to bless and honor them both.
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